Tuesday, September 18, 2007

The Unbearable Lightness Of Being

I had an "aha" recently. It has to do with my weight.
I've gained a lot of weight in the last nine years, the last nine years being spent sitting at a desk for eight or more hours a day.
Now I've "rewired."
(Rewired because retired sounds like something you do to a car.)
With my rewirement, I thought the pounds would start dropping off, because I am on the move often during the day. I even have a newborn in my life and carrying her about the house burns calories, doesn't it? The pounds should be dropping like flies.
But, the flies seem to like me.
Four weeks later, I'm still the same weight, even though I'm eating less. At the newspaper where I worked, my colleagues brought cookies and candy and potato chips every night, and I rewarded myself frequently with a mini-Snickers or mesquite-flavored chips or biscotti.
Now my worst temptation is the leftover apple crisp and ice cream I made for guests last Friday night.
It's almost gone.
But, back to the aha ...
First, you have to know, or rather I need to remember, that the extra 30 pounds were added gradually over nine years. That's only 3.3 pounds a year. So if they come off as gradually as they were put on, it will take me nine years to let go of them.
That feels like forever!
So at the beginning of this year, knowing I was rewiring, I started Weight Watchers and took off and kept off eight pounds. But no more. I sabotaged myself, and even knowing this, didn't change my behavior.
Rewiring changed my behavior, though.
There are no colleagues who bring treats into my home.
And caring for my granddaughter changed my behavior.
Still, the pounds have not started to melt.
I realized two weeks ago one reason why: I had reached a point where I didn't believe I would ever be slender again.
My head could not envision me like I was a decade ago.
No wonder nothing was changing.
About this time, the digital scale broke, and I took it as a sign. Stay off the scale until I can see myself light.
I am not losing weight, I am becoming lighter. It is no longer an unbearable thought.
I took a photograph of myself, front and side views, and used a marker pen to black out the excess stomach and back and thigh flesh. Now I have the picture of what I will look like -- I have to squint my eyes, though -- taped to my bathroom mirror.
Finally, I can see myself as the light being that I am.

P.S. About 10 days ago, my husband Jeremy couldn't bear not weighing himself daily. So he plopped a whopping $5.97 down on the old-fashioned kind of scale that has numbers in the window. When I got on it I couldn't see the small lines, but I could tell that I was halfway between two of the large numbers. I was sick, because it meant I had gained three of the pounds back that I'd lost since January. This morning, I wondered if I was any lighter, having had this aha. But this time I went and found my driving eyeglasses before stepping on. It turns out that the large numbers are 20 pounds apart, not 10, and actually, I've lost two pounds in the past month. I am so light now, I am floating.


Anonymous said...

Your idea of traveling around sounds terrific. Congratulations!
When in Mexico, let me know.

On the other hand, it seems to me that you are going to lose weight faster than you consider, but lets wait.
A big hung,

Anonymous said...

Loved reading this Peggy! I am so happy that you are rewired!
I had much the same feelings on weight loss myself. And recently I consciously practiced in my mind's seeing myself thinner. Well, I also planned a trip to see my kids in San Diego. Fish taco's here I come! I couldn't wait to eat some good Baja Mexican food! Welp, low and behold, the day before my trip, my jaw locked up. Yep tighter then a drum. I could get a straw in, no more. No spoon, no fork, no fish taco!
That was August 1st, today, I am doing much better. But I have lost 18 pounds. So... I am thinner.
It's just amazing how this all works!
Take care, enjoy every minute with your little granddaughter!
Love Kathy Martine

Anonymous said...

Peggy - You just make me smile! I love your spirit, your joy, your FUN for life! I feel lighter just having read your article. And I love re-wiring not re-tiring! You're brilliant! And if you decide you want to add some movement to your quest for lightness, let me know and I'll get you a free pass for FAC and you can come to my body flow class. It's a fabulous mind/body experience! Much love to you beautiful, light lady! Love, KIM